So I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship, and feel like I'm going to be single forever. I live in/around Los Angeles and am out, and even though I have other gay friends, I don't really have any potential bfs. One main reason for this is because the guys I'm interested in are (I'm sure many of you can relate to this) almost always straight, so it's pointless to try to be with them. Another reason is that I don't do a lot of things where there are other gay guys for me to meet and am not interested in things that stereotypically gay guys are into, so most of my friends and people I hang out with are straight guys. People (both gay and straight) have suggested that I try going to clubs/bars to meet guys, but I'm not interested in the club/bar scene, I don't drink, I don't dance, I'm annoyed by dance/EDM/pop/etc (yes I know I'm pretty boring). Another suggestion (which I've tried long before other people suggested it) is finding guys online, and though I have accounts on multiple sites/apps, I don't like meeting people online and prefer to know someone IRL first. One reason is that the few times I've met someone online (for potential relationship or otherwise) either they look really different than their profile pics or there's something about their personality (e.g. really feminine--which I don't have a problem with and have friends who can be pretty flamboyant at times, but for a potential fb I prefer someone who wasn't so feminine, not that I'm the most masculine guy myself though) that is a turnoff for me, so I feel like meeting people online can be a waste of time compared to meeting people I meet IRL where I would know these things about them more or less right away. People have told me to try to be more involved with more stereotypical things where there would be more chances of meeting someone (e.g. LGBT club/center, clubs, WeHo, etc) but I hate (whether in this situation or any other) doing stuff that I am not into or hate doing. For example, last year before I graduated Tyler Oakley came to my school to give a talk about YouTube and stuff, and as you could imagine there were a lot of other gay guys there too, but my main/only reason for going was to see/hear Tyler Oakley, regardless of if other gay guys were going to be there too. Like if there were going to be a Teen Wolf party/club thing, I would imagine that there would be a bunch of gay guys too, but I would go to that because I am a Teen Wolf fan, regardless of the other attendees, and I would not go to a Glee or Twilight party/club thing because I am not a fan of Glee or Twilight, even if everyone else there is gay (well maybe if Taylor Lautner is going to be there I might step in for a few seconds). I don't, as Connor Franta said, "let my sexuality define, or confine me. It's part of me, it's not all of me," and don't want it (same with ethnicity, language, gender, etc) be my main motivator for the things I do in life, and prefer my interest in something be the primary reason. The two potential bfs I had in my life I met through "normal" (i.e. everyday) circumstances such as being introduced by mutual friends or having the same class together, and prefer to meet people in this way, like how most of my (straight) friends met their bf/gf. Am I being too stubborn for not wanting to have to do things I don't like (clubs, bars, apps, Glee, etc) to have a better chance of finding someone? Is it unrealistic to hope to find someone in the same way that my straight friends are able to meet people. Am I naive to believe that I don't have to limit myself to online/app dating to find a bf?